Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fail.– Confucius
This is something that we haven’t talked about yet, but it is something that is one of the biggest setbacks we can face. Failure. Everyone does it and it is okay. You should never try to fail but trying your best and not being able to reach the result is okay. It just means you know what to look out for next time. No one wants to fail but, it’s a natural part of life and what matters is how you react. I hid from my failures for a long time and because of that, I was never able to truly change or move forward. I never wanted to be in the wrong or the reason something didn’t go right. So, I never admitted to myself or others of my own shortcomings. I know I am not alone in hiding my failures and disappointments. Many of us do it. We think that if we hide from our mistakes that they will just go away. But, that isn’t true, is it?
The more we hide and deflect our own mistakes the further behind we fall in changing ourselves. It took me a long time to realize this and with the help of different programs and the people around me I began to see this. I didn’t want to admit to myself I had messed up, who does? But, not facing my own failures had begun to haunt me. I couldn’t go to bed without thinking of everything that I had soiled and not even tried to begin fixing. I knew that I needed to take a step back and really look at myself and where I was and how I got there. I finally admitted to myself that I wasn’t where I wanted to be and that part of it was because of me. When I started owning my failures instead of being owned by them that was a major turning point in my journey.
I know it isn’t an easy thing to look yourself in the mirror and say “I messed up,” but, at some point in your life, it will be needed. You can’t change if you refuse to admit to yourself the things that put you where you are. You can never really love yourself if you don’t own the things that destroyed you in the past. I would never be able to do this blog if I was still hiding from my past and the failures that live in the past. I would still be burying myself in my addiction or self-hate if I didn’t come to terms with my past. It takes a strong person to admit that they messed up and turn it into a driving force to get better. But, I believe that all of you are strong enough of a person to take your bad past and the shortcomings that may be there and turn it into your inspiration. There is no better feeling than looking back at all the things that held you back and the people who said you would never turn your life around and showing them and yourself that you did. That you are truly living your best life because you took those negatives and hindrances and turned it into something beautiful. So, go out there and own your failures and keep trying until your whole life is surrounded by success. It’ll happen before you know it.